At last, an Agony Auntie who doesn't pull her punches:
DEAR TRAPPED: Poor you: No time between moving in together, aligning your finances, making love, going out, having dinners together, no time to speak up and say, "Hey, this is moving too fast and too far." You gave her one warning, then plunged in for the whole deal, which you now blame on her.
Do her a favor and let her find someone with a voice and the backbone to use it. Tell her that you misled her, which is what you've done. Then divide your finances and move out. She'll be the lucky one, even if she doesn't realize it at first.You go, girl.